The art of long-term sexual compatibility

The days of first dates and excitement are long gone and you are feeling as though sex will not be exciting any more. However, there are couples who manage to experience sparkles even after 20 years of living together. There are few of them-all because maintaining good sexual relationships requires time and efforts. The best way to turn long-term routine into long-term good sex is to keep in mind some simple rules.

1.Be open to each other

At the initial stage of the relationship, we are used to the feeling of anticipation and close our eyes on details we consider minor. We are happy to HAVE sex and the only possibility of physical intimacy titillate our body to a mere presence of the beloved one. However, sexual obsession with each other is not long term. Reality of sex much more complex than what a hot erotic movie shows us.

There are a lot of situations were you need to tell about inconvenience or how you wish your partner to act in so many intricate situations. You may not always like what your partner does and vice versa. Very often we hide things that should be discussed openly out of fear to hurt your partner's feelings, when in fact we breed dissatisfaction.

2.Accept the differences

We are the one- one completes the other. This sounds good for a good novel -not for real sexual relationships. Just like each of us has his own individuality, our sexual needs can be different too. This doesn't mean he is pervert and you are normal or otherwise. Your partner has its own physical urges and they may be not all like yours.

Accepting your partner's differences doesn't mean you should do things that go against your will or your own desires. You should not panic to know that your mate may like something that you consider unusual or "disgusting". Your differences is strong engine to move both of you forward, and developing your relationships.

3.Become closer emotionally

Sex is closely connected with our attitude towards each other. You may be tempted to make up with your partner after a quarrel, but as practice shows sex is not a solution to other problems and won't bring you together if you haven't talked over the difficult matter first. Good sex is about having understanding on other levels and this first of all refers to emotional connection.

Don't make a habit to have sex when you are nervous or worried just to release from tension. It's better at least to calm down first and take things step by step.

4.Get off the beaten path

When you started dating, you both didn't think much about sexual compatibility. With the time, many couples are well aware of the ways to satisfy each other's urges the best possible way. However blissful it may seem, sex that goes according to a well-known scenario son becomes no more exciting than brushing your teeth.

You may ask- why try new things if you know one sure way to bring each other to the highest peak of pleasure? It's simple - there can be even better than you thought. Your preferences may change, you may find new sources for satisfaction. Even if some ideas seemed weird at first, later it can become your favorite.